What is Confidence Really About? How Do You Build Confidence? - 5 Tips That Can Help.

What is Confidence Really About?  How Do You Build Confidence? - 5 Tips That Can Help. - Melissa Allen Mood Essentials

Do you have trouble shaking off your self-doubt?  If you do, don’t worry, you’re definatley not alone.  No matter where you fall on the confidence spectrum, it’s safe to say that we all have our off days.  And the times when we lack confidence can really drag us down.

Self confidence is linked to almost every element involved in a happy and fulfilling life, which is why below we discuss, what Confidence is and if Confidence comes naturally or is learnt, along with 5 Tips on how to Help Build Confidence

What is self confidence
If we want to define self confidence, we have to look at our own feelings of self-worth, as well as our feelings of self doubt.  Because at the end of the day, that’s really what’s it’s all about.

How you view confidence is entirely unique to you.  And what you feel confident about is also unique to you. Confidence is a person’s ability to believe in themselves and their strength to succeed

Does Confidence Come Naturally Or Is it Learned? 

We’ve all got that friend or co-worker that oozes confidence.  Nothing ruffles their feathers.  Criticism seems to just slide right off their backs.  They’re unfraid to take risks, try new things, and even when they don’t succeed, they never hesitate to try, try again. 

For some people confidence seems to come naturally.  For other’s it’s something that needs to be worked and developed.

Confidence can be learned. It can be cultivated, nurtured and developed.  And there’s really no limit to how confidence you can learn to become and below are 5 tips to help.


Each of us has a negative commentator in our heads – that nagging little voice that criticises us.  When we stumble, fall, or make a mistake, that voice is there making nasty, feel-bad comments.  It’s running negative scripts that destroy our self-esteem.

We can really be our own worst enemy.  Learn to identify the negative scripts in your mind and challenge them. Is what you just told yourself really true? Probably not.


Think about someone you know whom you consider extremely confident. When you first met them, you probably knew they were confident before they even started speaking. You knew they were self-assured because of the way they carried themselves and moved. They made eye contact, shook your hand firmly and stood up straight


One of the surest ways to lose confidence is try to be someone else. One of the best ways to build your confidence? Be true to yourself. 

When you’re trying to be someone you’re not, every part of you resists it. You are not everyone else. You are you. And the more you can understand who you are and what you value the stronger you will be.

When you stray away from who you are, you lose confidence because it’s ‘just not you’.


Set some goals and set out the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.


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